On the Journey Towards Living Nonviolently

From HenriNouwen.org

written by MADELINE BURGHART

We live each day surrounded by images of the horrors of our world.
Each week brings stories of a world weary with violence.
How can we not feel powerless in this?
How can we remain committed to a life of nonviolence when so many of the world's ways seem to point in the other direction?

My husband and I were asked to reflect on this dilemma at a recent Christian Peacemaker Teams workshop.
Through preparing for this workshop, we realized that living nonviolently involves two separate yet interconnected practices: an outer, visible witness to a life of peace; and the more hidden, attentive work of being present to the small details of our lives.
The outer practice is more noticeable, and is often more gratifying-who doesn't feel better after participating in a peace march?
And yet, as I learn over and over again, the greatest impact I can have in my tiny world is the way I choose to be present to others and to the world around me.
If, daily, I can speak to my children with absolute patience and listen to them as deeply as I would wish that listening from someone else; if, daily, I refrain from the easier tack of speaking ill of someone in order to appear stronger myself; if, daily, I make choices that cause less damage to this beautiful planet-then I know my journey of nonviolence continues, despite the invisibility of its workings.

In a world so broken, I need to believe that living peacefully, both in the grander picture and in the smallness of my own life, will make some difference to the work of "creating something new in the skin of the old."

MADELINE BURGHART has been connected to L'Arche for twelve years and is presently a house leader with L'Arche Toronto. She lives in the Toronto Catholic Worker community with her husband and three sons.