Only Me

It took me a long time to realize that when

I hate somebody it doesn't hurt them.

Only me.

 

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Anger Is Not A Strategy

Anger helps straighten out a problem like
a fan helps straighten out a pile of papers.
--Susan Marcotte

Anger is not a strategy.
I don't have the right to rain on other people's parades.
My program can teach me better ways to deal with my anger - with honesty and fairness to myself and others.

Revenge: A Different Approach To Anger

There can be times when we get so angry with someone that we find ourselves imagining ways to seek revenge for the hurt they've caused us.
Remember, however, that the thoughts you've just had are energetic creations.
In order to keep yourself from having to take part in the rebalancing of energy, it is important to release the person and the thoughts into the care of the universe with forgiveness.
Before we allow ourselves to invest our energy into negative thought or action, we can remind ourselves that everything has a purpose.
We can then consider that perhaps the actions of the other person or people may have had nothing to do with us.
If we don't take their actions personally, it may be easier to release them.
Remembering that every interaction is an opportunity to make a better choice, we can take a deep breath before responding, allowing us just enough time to connect to center and make the choice to respond from our higher self.
We can never know all the circumstances that may have led anyone to do anything.
By not passing judgment on anyone, and instead sending hope for their healing, we may create something positive out of a difficult situation.
We can then release it, since dwelling on it can cause an energetic drain in our system, causing us to really only hurt ourselves.
When we can release our hold on negative events and interactions, we leave it in the hands of a wise universe to work out the best solution for all involved.
In every moment we have a chance to make a choice to bring light into the world.
When we bless others with the gift of our positive energy, instead of letting circumstances affect us negatively, we bring a little peace to the world every day.

-- DailyOM

Anger

Anger is the wind that blows out the light of reason.

Demolishing Anger's Walls

Resentment

Anger, when channeled into the pursuit of change, can be a useful tool in our emotional palette.
Anger is experienced by most people, some more than others.
It is when anger has no outlet and morphs into resentment that it carries with it the potential to cause great turmoil.
Allowing us to assign blame for the pain we are feeling, thereby easing it, resentment tends to smolder relentlessly just below the surface of our awareness, eroding our peace of mind.
The target of our resentment grows ever more wicked in our minds and we rue the day we first encountered them.
But resentment is merely another hue on the emotional palette and therefore within the realm of our conscious control.
We can choose to let go of our resentment and to move on with our lives, no matter how painful the event that incited it.

Hanging onto resentment in our hearts does not serve us in any way.
Successfully divesting ourselves of resentful feelings can be difficult, however, because doing so forces us to mentally and emotionally confront the original source of anger.
When we cease assigning blame, we realize that our need to hold someone or something responsible for our feelings has harmed us.
We thought we were coping with our hurt when in fact we were holding onto that hurt with a vice grip.
To release resentment, we must shift our attention from those we resent back toward ourselves by thinking of our own needs.
Performing a short ceremony can help you quell resentful feelings by giving tangible form to your emotions.
You may want to write down your feelings and then burn the paper and close your ceremony by wishing them well.
When you can find compassion in your heart, you know you are on your way to healing.

Free of resentment, we have much more energy and attention to devote to our personal development.
We can fill the spaces it left behind with unconditional acceptance and joy.
And, as a result of our subsequent freedom from resentment, blessings can once again enter our lives as the walls we built to contain our anger have been demolished.

-- DailyOM

Discoloring My Perspective

Love is a positive feeling and
if one cultivates this feeling in their life,
they will surely free themselves from
any unbalanced condition that surrounds them.
-- Syd Banks

Anger, whether unfocused or triggered by a troubling experience or a hostile person, discolors my perspective through an afternoon or a full day, perhaps even a week. My understanding of events is always directly related to the attitude I've chosen to harbor. No situation or person, however difficult, has the power to steal away my happiness without my passive consent. So willingly I adopt negative attitudes. My choices for actions, feelings, or attitudes are far greater than those I habitually turn to. And it's likely I know love least of all. But just as anger breeds more anger, love cultivates more love, and each life that's touched by love profits from it. When I make a decision to practice love unconditionally - loving myself, my neighbors and co-workers, even the snarling strangers sharing my traffic jam, I will quickly experience the miracle of love in my own lives.