What People Are Thinking ....

To become less concerned with what people might be thinking, and less upset by negative things others may say:

1. Never guess what others might be thinking.



2. Value Yourself



3. Live your own life



4. Make your own choices.



5. Value your own opinions.



6. Choose to associate mostly with positive people who support you.

Strength & Comfort

Every time I get worried about something I say my prayers more.

Jim Burns

I never outgrow the need for strength and comfort.

That's good news.

It's too awesome to think that I need to know all now, to understand how every detail of living should unfold.

It's quite enough to limit my focus on the details of the next 24 hours.

Let's be vigilant about my search for guidance and comfort.

And let's not forget that I have to listen for the response.

If my mind is filled with worrying, there will be no space for the answers to enter.

Praying for solutions or comfort or 

just a moment of peace will 

change my perspective today. 

When my perspective changes, 

so do my experiences.

 

Getting Our Worries Out

Trying to ignore our worries only pushes them underground.

Pretending we are not anxious, when we are, is a tactic that fools no one, especially not ourselves.

Attempting to deny or repress our fears and worries does not work.

The result is often depression or a physical ailment, indicating that in our subconscious, we know very well that something is wrong.

The rigorous honesty of the Twelve Step way of life saves us from playing destructive games with ourselves.

A worry that we can define and examine in the light of day is far less threatening than one we are trying to hide.

So let's ask ourselves what it is we fear.

If our worry is a rational one, we need to decide what we can do to prepare for the worst-case scenario.

If the worry is irrational, we need to figure out how to get rid of it.

But, no matter whether a worry is rational or irrational, we can't turn it over until we acknowledge we have it.

Getting our worries out in the open and talking about them with people whose judgment we trust keeps us grounded in reality.

 

If I am worried about something today,
I will consciously examine it so that I can resolve it.

 

Inner Harvest by Elisabeth

 

Worry

Worry is like a rocking chair.

It gives you something to do,

but it doesn't get you anywhere.

Anonymous

 

God, grant me the serenity to

accept the things I cannot change,

courage to change the things I can and

wisdom to know the difference.

 

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Dread & Wallowing

I will tackle at least two things I dread doing.
I will not waste my time and energy by
wallowing in boredom, worry, criticism, or fear.
I will do what needs to be done even if
it requires effort, risk and change.

Guilt

Guilt is really the reverse side of the coin of pride.

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Guilt is in the past;

worry is the future.
Both are manifestations of ego.

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Preventing Worry Nests

That the birds of worry and care

fly about your head

This you cannot change

But that they build nests in your hair

This you can prevent.

Chinese Proverb

Today I replace my worry with

trust and faith in my ability

to use my resources to

face whatever life brings me.

We All Need A Tree

I hired a plumber to help me restore an old farmhouse, and after he had just finished a rough first day on the job, a flat tire made him lose an hour of work, his electric drill quit, and his ancient one ton truck refused to start.
While I drove him home, he sat in stony silence.
On arriving, he invited me in to meet his family.
As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands.
When opening the door he underwent an amazing transformation.
His face was wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss.
Afterward he walked me to the car.
We passed the tree and my curiosity got the better of me.
I asked him about what I had seen him do earlier.
'Oh,that's my trouble tree,' he replied.
'I know I can't help having troubles on the job, but one thing's for sure, those troubles don't belong in the house with my wife and the children.
So I just hang them up on the tree every night when I come home and ask God to take care of them.
Then in the morning I pick them up again.
Funny thing is,' he smiled, 'when I come out in the morning to pick 'em up, there aren't nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before.'

Letting Go of Worry

What if we knew for certain that everything we're worried about today will work out fine?
What if . . . we had a guarantee that the problem bothering us would be worked out in the most perfect way, and at the best possible time?
Furthermore, what if we knew that three years from now we'd be grateful for that problem, and its solution?
What if . . . we knew that even our worst fear would work out for the best?
What if . . . we had a guarantee that everything that's happening, and has happened, in our life was meant to be, planned just for us, and in our best interest?
What if . . . we had a guarantee that the people we love are experiencing exactly what they need in order to become who they're intended to become?
Further, what if we had a guarantee that others can be responsible for themselves, and we don't have to control or take responsibility for them?
What if . . . we knew the future was going to be good, and we would have an abundance of resources and guidance to handle whatever comes our way?
What if . . . we knew everything was okay, and we didn't have to worry about a thing?
What would we do then?
We'd be free to let go and enjoy life.

Today, I will know that I don't have to worry about anything.
If I do worry, I will do it with the understanding that I am choosing to worry, and it is not necessary.

The Language of Letting Go
by Melody Beattie

A Thin Stream Of Fear

Worry is a thin stream of fear
trickling through the mind.
If encouraged, it cuts a channel into
which all other thoughts are drained.
-- Arthur Somers Roche

When a worry nags me, it is like that trickle.
It poses little threat to me and can be stopped at any time because it is so small.
But if I let more worrisome thoughts feed into the stream, I will allow it to grow until all of my thoughts and energy are focused on one worry that has attained great power.
Everyone has things to worry about.
But I don't have to give these worries more than passing acknowledgment.
The trickles that run through my minds are okay to have.
But to keep them at that size, I need to remember what is important to me at this very moment.
I don't need to let the worries grow.
I have worries just like everyone else.
However, I don't have to dwell upon my worries or make them any bigger than what they are.