Honesty isn't an event -- it's a process.

I always thought honesty had something to do with telling other people the truth.

It was explained that it had to do first with telling myself the truth.

I spent most of my life worrying about myself, thinking that I was unwanted, that I was unloved.

I've learned ... that the more I worry about me loving you, and the less I worry about you loving me, the happier I'll be.
-- Experience, Strength and Hope, p. 218